While being on the same page is generally important in the marriage, remember you two are two different people. Both of you are a set of different experiences and with that comes a difference in opinions. Its okay to agree to disagree!
Craving out time for yourselves is important in keeping the spark alive. Whether you want to go on a date every week, or have a night in together once a month, you know what you like to do!
Be your partners #1 supporter rather than their biggest critic. Feeling supported in a relationship will lead to much less resentment later down the line.
With divorce rates so high, it seems as though couples are less and less willing to fix things when they are broken.
Blaming your spouse for x,y, and z isn’t going to do either of you any good. Adopting the skill of using “I” vs ‘You” is helpful in this situation. Use sentences that start with the word I, instead of telling your spouse what they (you) have been doing wrong.
I can’t stress this enough! You exist as a whole person outside of your marriage. Its hard to help others when your own glass is half empty.
Life can get tough, so don’t be tough on each other. Patience and kindness will go a long way in your relationship.
Most people are under the impression that marriage should be 50/50, but I like to think of it as 100/100. You have to be willing to give 100% when your other half may not be able to.
The smaller things always have the biggest impact. A compliment in the morning, a love note on the counter, remembering little details in a conversation. All small examples that could make a big impact when your spouse is having a hard day.
This is an overall theme you should remember during your time as a married couple. There will hard days that wont feel as wonderful as it once did. But although you may not also feel as wonderful as it did on your wedding day, you made a commitment for better or for worse.