By: Kristina Phelan
When you get married, you of course love your fiancé, but how well do both sets of parents know each other? It can be hard to get both sides of the family to communicate when planning a wedding. Here are a few ways to increase the chance that both of your parents are on great terms come your wedding day:
Usually the awkwardness between parents stems from the fact that they don’t know each other well. Encourage easy communication between your parents by meeting many times before your big day. Your parents will feel more comfortable if they have a relationship with their in-laws. Create fun activities that you can all do together that are low key and encourage easy communication. Never miss the opportunity to have everyone together to form a relationship.
Planning a wedding is usually stressful and it can be easy to miscommunicate. Make sure everyone is on the same page by inviting both moms to help out. Don’t exclude your future mother-in-law just because she isn’t a permanent part of your life yet. Including her will help to prevent misunderstandings.
If your parents hear you talk negatively about your future in-laws, it will affect the way that they view them as well. Speaking about your in-laws in a positive way is good practice for your future marriage. You don’t need to lie about your feelings but be careful with what you share with your parents. This will allow parents to form their own opinion and you won’t get caught in the middle.
In general, most misunderstandings happen due to a lack of clear communication. Follow these 3 steps to make sure that both parents are comfortable with the plans for the wedding. Marriage is bringing you all together and your choice to marry your fiancé is putting this other couple into your parent’s lives. Remember that both sets of parents want what is best for you on your wedding day.
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