This is probably the question I get asked the most while designing invitations. You want to make it abundantly clear that you do not want kids at your wedding without sounding rude. I get it. I did the same thing for my wedding. I’m going to give you of the tips I have found that work with my clients, without being too harsh.
You need to include names of the people invited. If you put “The Miller Family”, your guests are going to assume their entire household is invited. If you don’t put the exact names of the people you’re inviting, they may assume that they can bring their kid too.
Another way you can clearly tell your wedding guests that is an adult only affair is by filling in the RSVP name line with the exact names from the envelope. Even if you use a site like The Knot for RSVPs, you can plug in the names of the people on your list and they won’t be able to add anyone else. This might sound tedious, but you really can’t be more blunt than that.
You know how at the bottom of invitations they always say “Reception to follow”? You can make it say “Adult Only Reception to follow”. Some people consider this a faux-pas and consider it poor etiquette, which really, people do it all the time, so you shouldn’t unless you’re having a black-tie/very formal wedding, you can put it on your reception/details insert. Again, just casually drop the “adult only” part. I even have clients who make their entire details card about the wedding being kid-free by saying something like this:
In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult-only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!
We would love to give all our guests the opportunity to let their hair down and have a good time without having to worry about little eyes and ears so we politely request no children.
You just need to be firm, and not make any exceptions once you make the decision. Your wedding is for you and your future hubby/wife! Don’t let other people’s opinion or lack of understanding on what you are requesting from them ruin your big day.
I’m curious to know, if you have been married, or been to a kid-free wedding, how did the couple let their guests no that children were not permitted? Leave it in the comments below!