Everyone knows planning a wedding is very stressful task for the bride and groom, but being a guest comes with its own set of challenges too. Do you bring a date? What will you wear that doesn’t clash or take away from the couple? What do you get them that isn’t a boring set of silverware? But you may also struggle with what to write in a wedding card to the couple.
Now there are a few different types of cards you could be sending your newly engaged friends, all with a different scenario. This in itself could be hard to not repeat yourself, or find the right words to express your feelings toward them. I’ll go over a few examples of times where it may be appropriate to send a card, and what to say, to take some of the pressure off you!
Firstly, there are a couple things to consider in general when sitting down to write in a wedding card.
Relationship. What is relationship to the bride and groom? If this is a family member are a closer, personal, friend then it might be appropriate to write from the heart. Never underestimate the power of sentimental value! Otherwise if you are a plus one to a wedding you may be able to stick with a more generic (but still meaningful!) message.
Religion. If the bride and groom are religious, utilize that in choosing a wedding card! If the couple is not religious, their wedding day is not the day to convert them. Be respectful of their values and beliefs no matter what end of the scale they may be on!
The most obvious time when you should be getting the couple a card is when you are attending their wedding. Whether its paired with a gift, or a check, what’s written inside is always important. You generally want to start out with a congratulatory phrase followed by some sort of well wishes! Below are some examples you can use:
Next you can share a memory! Unless you are a plus one, chances are you’ve had a few good times with the bride or groom. Wedding are about surrounding the love with love and support! So take this opportunity to share one of your favorite memories with the newlyweds to keep that love train moving! This part is usually less formal and should be the easiest part for guests to write because its already happened. Keep it short and sweet because we still have a few more lines to go!
The second to last sentiment is to thank the couple. Weddings come in all forms and the bride and groom chose you specifically to be apart of this huge life event! This in itself is enough to be appreciated. Not including all the time and energy they have put into making this an enjoyable experience, providing you with dinner, and (hopefully) an open bar!
Lastly you’ll want to “sign off”. This is usually another warm wishes line to tie it all together. Again this can be an simple or formal as you want it to be.
If you are not attending the wedding the format will generally be the same. You’ll start out with congratulations followed by a sentiment on how much you wish you could be there celebrating with everyone.
I think its important to share a memory especially when you aren’t attending the wedding giving them a sense of you being with them, even if you cant be there physically. Recalling the past can provide support in the present on such an emotional day!
Finally, you can end the message with another round of well wishes and a sign off like whats listed in the category above. Make these final statements less about your absence and more about the love you have for the couple!
This section is for the bride and groom! Your friends and family will have most likely thrown you a bachelor and bachelorette party. Although this may not be an extensive as the wedding you’ve been planning, your friends have spent their time and money on making this party all about you!
This is typically a more casual type of card as most bachelor/ bachelorette parties are not very formal! You’ll want to start of the card thanking your friends for all the hard work they put into the party!
Next, reference some of your favorite activities or memories of the event! Pinpointing specific moments will make your friends feel good. It may be a good refresher for the ones that might have some holes in their memory of the weekend!
End the note with some love and appreciation. Tell your friends how much you value their friendship and everything they are doing for you during the wedding process. Everyone loves to feel important!